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Start here: what this course is and how its evidence labels work
What the course trains (calibration, not getting the date), how to read its five evidence labels, and the ground rules.
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Unit 1: Notice
HOT APE: observable flirting signals
Teach Jean Smith's HOT APE as a reminder of where to look, and the research limits on every cue. Clusters beat single cues.
AI-generated summary, made with NotebookLM from this course's lessons. The lessons are the reference. Baseline, cluster, change
The observation method: baseline, several independent cues, change after one small step of your own, and the honest "Insufficient information".
AI-generated summary, made with NotebookLM from this course's lessons. The lessons are the reference. Attraction without mythology (part 1 of 2)
Separate attraction from attention, anxiety and preoccupation; show what research does and doesn't support; teach the five evidence labels. Part 1 of 2: lessons L1 to L4.
AI-generated summary, made with NotebookLM from this course's lessons. The lessons are the reference. Attraction without mythology (part 2 of 2)
Separate attraction from attention, anxiety and preoccupation; show what research does and doesn't support; teach the five evidence labels. Part 2 of 2: lessons L5 to L7.
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Unit 2: Talk
Everyday conversation
Start, keep going and end ordinary conversations: openers, small talk that finds common ground, listening that shows, turns and pauses, short stories and humor that includes.
AI-generated summary, made with NotebookLM from this course's lessons. The lessons are the reference. Conversation: Observe, Share, Ask
Marni Kinrys's OSA as a structure for reciprocal conversation; drills that turn interviews into exchanges.
AI-generated summary, made with NotebookLM from this course's lessons. The lessons are the reference. Personal communication profile
Place the learner's style on continuous dimensions (directness, humor, teasing, warmth, disclosure, verbosity, romantic signaling, leadership, emotional expression) so suggested lines can be adapted to sound like him.
AI-generated summary, made with NotebookLM from this course's lessons. The lessons are the reference. Articulation
Say observations, preferences, disagreement, appreciation, playful challenge, curiosity, attraction, invitations, boundaries and exits clearly, then stop and observe.
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Say a limit in one plain sentence, receive someone else's limit with acceptance and nothing else, respond to a romantic boundary, and raise a difficult subject.
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Unit 3: Signal
Friendly to flirty (part 1 of 2)
Make romantic interest perceptible early and lightly, notice whether it is returned, and calibrate. "Flirting should make romantic possibility perceptible without making romantic participation obligatory." Part 1 of 2: lessons L1 to L5.
AI-generated summary, made with NotebookLM from this course's lessons. The lessons are the reference. Friendly to flirty (part 2 of 2)
Make romantic interest perceptible early and lightly, notice whether it is returned, and calibrate. "Flirting should make romantic possibility perceptible without making romantic participation obligatory." Part 2 of 2: lessons L6 to L10.
AI-generated summary, made with NotebookLM from this course's lessons. The lessons are the reference. Reciprocal investment
Notice what she voluntarily invests; don't keep doing things that hide it. Connection, then space, then observation.
AI-generated summary, made with NotebookLM from this course's lessons. The lessons are the reference. Texting, silence and re-engagement
Read a text thread by its trajectory and reciprocity, not one delay: use the eight cooling questions, send at most one light follow-up into silence, tell the post-date situations and cancellation signals apart, handle friends and exes honestly, and audit "send this exact text" promises.
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