Exercises

Short moments described only by what you could see and hear. You pick out what you observed, decide what it supports, and "Insufficient information" is a real answer.

Module 1: Attraction without mythology

Evidence check · follows lesson M01-L1
Evidence check: what your own mind can and cannot tell you
4 items, about 4 minutes
Evidence check · follows lesson M01-L2
Evidence check: what predicts liking, and what it cannot predict
4 items, about 4 minutes
Evidence check · follows lesson M01-L3
Evidence check: stated preferences and real attraction
4 items, about 4 minutes
Evidence check · follows lesson M01-L4
Evidence check: five labels
4 items, about 4 minutes
Evidence check · follows lesson M01-L5
Evidence check: five popular claims
5 items, about 5 minutes
Evidence check · follows lesson M01-L6
Evidence check: who was studied
4 items, about 4 minutes
Evidence check · follows lesson M01-L7
Evidence check: voices and humor
4 items, about 7 minutes

Module 2: HOT APE: observable flirting signals

Module 3: Baseline, cluster, change

Module 4: Conversation: Observe, Share, Ask

Module 5: Internal validation

Module 6: Six "Nice Guy" failure modes

Module 7: Genuine selectivity

Module 8: Reciprocal investment

Module 9: Social Mistakes and the Scrambler, critically

Module 10: Variable reward and dopamine

Module 11: Articulation

Module 12: Personal communication profile

Module 13: Friendly to flirty

Module 14: Physical affection and romantic tension

Module 15: Everyday conversation

Module 16: Boundaries and difficult conversations

Module 17: Steady under uncertainty

Module 18: Ego, chase and 'secret' desire, checked

Module 19: Texting, silence and re-engagement

Module 20: Before the conversation: online presence

Exercises

Module 1: Attraction without mythology

Evidence check: what your own mind can and cannot tell you

Evidence check: what predicts liking, and what it cannot predict

Evidence check: stated preferences and real attraction

Evidence check: five labels

Evidence check: five popular claims

Evidence check: who was studied

Evidence check: voices and humor

Module 2: HOT APE: observable flirting signals

Cue observation: six moments

Eye contact and distance: six moments

Faces, certainty and what you can tell: six moments

Touch as a cue: six moments

Laughter, questions and attention: six moments

Module 3: Baseline, cluster, change

Baseline first: six comparisons

Clusters beat single cues: six moments

Your wishes color what you see: four moments and two checks

Step gently, then watch for change: three moments

"Insufficient information" is an answer: six moments

Module 4: Conversation: Observe, Share, Ask

Observe, Share, Ask: three builds

From interview to conversation: three rewrites

Going a little deeper: three builds

People are often liked more than they think: three checks

Module 5: Internal validation

Assumed welcome: three plans

Saying what you prefer: three plans

Her mood is not your verdict: three moments

Reassurance-seeking: three moments

Module 6: Six "Nice Guy" failure modes

Kindness is not the problem: three evidence checks

Approval-seeking and over-accommodating: three moments

Disagreeing honestly: three moments

Hidden intent and early over-investment: three moments

Over-explaining and apologizing: three moments

Early over-investment: four moments

Module 7: Genuine selectivity

Selectivity exercises: label it, pick it, say it

Selective, not scarce: exercises

What to find out: exercises

Module 8: Reciprocal investment

What investment looks like: exercises

Match, don't outpace: exercises

Space is a sensor: exercises

When to stop proposing: exercises

Module 9: Social Mistakes and the Scrambler, critically

What the sales pages say: exercises

Hard to get, tested: exercises

Make them chase? Effort and liking: exercises

The useful core: exercises

How a quiz funnel sells: exercises

Module 10: Variable reward and dopamine

Dopamine exercises: what the evidence supports

Intermittent reward exercises: what the evidence supports

Rumination exercises: what the evidence supports

Anticipation exercises: what the evidence supports, and what to send

Module 11: Articulation

Say it, stop, observe: exercises

Specific beats generic: exercises

Playful challenge: exercises

Preferences and disagreement: exercises

Preferences and disagreement: transfer ladders

Invitations: exercises

Invitations: transfer ladders

Boundaries and graceful exits: exercises

Module 12: Personal communication profile

Communication profile: place your dials

Sounding like yourself: exercises

Module 13: Friendly to flirty

Pivot exercises: find it, read it, one notch

Micro-pivot exercises: find it, then one notch

Micro-pivots: appreciation and play: transfer ladders

Timing exercises: early, late, and again

Return-signal exercises: builds, pulls back, mixed

Flirty OSA exercises: build it, then one notch

Going back to friendly: read it, then say it

Evidence-check exercises: the pivot article

Curiosity and eye-contact exercises: find the pivot