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Foreplay triggers
Invented example
A short set of moves that never fails with any partner.
Ideas it might be pointing at
A short claim can stand for several different ideas. Each is set out here with how well it is supported, and whether that support goes toward the advert's promise.
| Idea | What it is | Evidence | Does this support the advert? |
|---|---|---|---|
| Talking openly | Whether open talk about sex goes with satisfaction. | Evidence: Well supported1 | No. Couples who communicate more openly and well about sex tend to report higher sexual and relationship satisfaction. A multilevel meta-analysis of 93 studies found moderate links. Almost all the studies are correlational, so direction is unknown. |
| Saying what you like | Whether telling a partner your preferences matters. | Evidence: Plausible2 | No. In one study of 104 long-term couples, telling a partner your preferences went with greater satisfaction, a pattern consistent with the partner learning what you want. Many partners also find it hard to say what pleases or displeases them. |
| Closeness or going along | Why a person takes part at all. | Evidence: Supported with caveats3 | No. In three studies from one group, being intimate for closeness and enjoyment went with higher satisfaction in both partners, and going along mainly to avoid disappointing a partner went with lower satisfaction. |
| Body and feeling can differ | Whether a body's response matches the feeling. | Evidence: Well supported4 | No. A review of 132 laboratory studies found that bodily arousal and reported arousal do not always match, and individuals vary widely. That finding concerns arousal as measured in a lab, not desire or agreement. |
| Arousal is not agreement | Whether a response shows that someone wants something. | Evidence: Supported with caveats56 | No. A person can have a bodily response under unwanted stimulation, and that response does not mean they agreed. A partner's physical response cannot be used to infer that they want something, so the reliable route is to ask and to listen to the answer. |
What would make it testable
As stated, it cannot be tested. The advert doesn't show the seven triggers, so there is nothing to test, and 'work' is not defined or measured.
A testable version Among adult couples, does a conversation about what each partner enjoys, compared with no such conversation, change each partner's own rating of satisfaction a month later, measured separately for each partner by self-report?
The useful question underneath
Wanting closeness to go well for both people. The aim 'I want a set of moves that works on anyone' becomes: ask what the other person likes, listen, go at a pace you both choose, and treat their words as the guide. A body's response is never agreement.
Lessons that use this
Sources
Each numbered mark above opens the evidence behind that idea: the label, what it does not show and where it comes from.
Evidence: Well supportedCouples who communicate more openly and well about sex tend to report higher sexual satisfaction and higher relationship satisfaction.
Why this label
A meta-analysis or several independent studies agree, with no serious failure to replicate. A multilevel meta-analysis of 93 studies finds moderate positive associations, and a large national survey and several couple studies point the same way.
What it does not show
- Almost all studies are correlational and cross-sectional, so direction is unknown: satisfied couples may also talk more easily.
- Mostly self-report and heterosexual couples in individualistic countries; the meta-analysis finds stronger links where individualism is higher and gender inequality lower.
- The association is moderate, so many satisfied couples talk little and many talkers are unsatisfied.
Who it applies to
A pattern across groups of people, not a statement about any one person.
Sources
- Mallory, A. B. (2022). Dimensions of couples’ sexual communication, relationship satisfaction, and sexual satisfaction: A meta-analysis., Journal of Family Psychology.
- Frederick, D. A., Lever, J., Gillespie, B. J., Garcia, J. R. (2016). What Keeps Passion Alive? Sexual Satisfaction Is Associated With Sexual Communication, Mood Setting, Sexual Variety, Oral Sex, Orgasm, and Sex Frequency in a National U.S. Study, The Journal of Sex Research.
- Jones, A. C., Robinson, W. D., Seedall, R. B. (2018). The Role of Sexual Communication in Couples’ Sexual Outcomes: A Dyadic Path Analysis, Journal of Marital and Family Therapy.
Evidence: PlausibleTelling a partner your sexual preferences is linked to greater sexual satisfaction, in a pattern consistent with the partner then understanding what you want and sexual experiences becoming more rewarding and less costly.
Why this label
One study, or indirect evidence from a nearby question. One study of long-term couples supported this instrumental pathway for both women and men. Byers' review also reports that many partners find it hard to say what pleases or displeases them.
What it does not show
- One sample of 104 long-term heterosexual couples.
- Mediation in cross-sectional data does not establish cause.
- Does not cover first encounters or casual partners.
Who it applies to
A pattern across groups of people, not a statement about any one person.
Sources
- MacNeil, S., Byers, E. S. (2009). Role of Sexual Self-Disclosure in the Sexual Satisfaction of Long-Term Heterosexual Couples, Journal of Sex Research.
- Byers, E. S. (2011). Beyond the birds and the bees and was it good for you?: Thirty years of research on sexual communication., Canadian Psychology / Psychologie canadienne.
Evidence: Supported with caveatsBeing intimate for closeness and enjoyment is linked to higher satisfaction, while going along mainly to avoid disappointing a partner is linked to lower satisfaction.
Why this label
Several studies agree, with stated limits such as student samples or lab settings. Three studies, including a daily diary of dating couples and one of long-term couples, found that approach motives (such as enhancing intimacy) predicted higher satisfaction in both partners, and avoidance motives (such as avoiding disappointing the partner) predicted lower satisfaction, with desire mediating the link.
What it does not show
- Same research group; no independent replication located.
- Diary and scenario self-report; sample composition beyond the abstract was not checked.
- Correlational beyond the scenario experiment in Study 1.
Who it applies to
A pattern across groups of people, not a statement about any one person.
Source
- Muise, A., Impett, E. A., Desmarais, S. (2013). Getting It On Versus Getting It Over With: Sexual Motivation, Desire, and Satisfaction in Intimate Bonds, Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin.
Evidence: Well supportedBodily arousal and how aroused a person says they feel do not always match: across laboratory studies the two agreed fairly closely on average in men (r = .66) and weakly on average in women (r = .26).
Why this label
A meta-analysis or several independent studies agree, with no serious failure to replicate. A meta-analysis of 132 studies found a statistically significant gap between self-reported and body-based measures of arousal, larger for women, and a later experiment replicated the sex difference. The finding concerns arousal as measured in a laboratory, not desire, wanting or agreement to a particular act.
What it does not show
- Laboratory studies in which participants viewed sexual stimuli, mostly Western volunteers.
- The numbers are averages; individuals vary widely and may differ from the average either way.
- Measures arousal, not consent, desire or what a partner wants in a real encounter.
- The replication used 20 men and 20 women.
Who it applies to
A pattern across groups of people, not a statement about any one person.
Sources
- Chivers, M. L., Seto, M. C., Lalumière, M. L., Laan, E., Grimbos, T. (2010). Agreement of Self-Reported and Genital Measures of Sexual Arousal in Men and Women: A Meta-Analysis, Archives of Sexual Behavior 39(1), 5-56.
- Suschinsky, K. D., Lalumière, M. L., Chivers, M. L. (2008). Sex Differences in Patterns of Genital Sexual Arousal: Measurement Artifacts or True Phenomena?, Archives of Sexual Behavior 38(4), 559-573.
Evidence: Supported with caveatsA person can experience bodily arousal, or even orgasm, under unwanted or non-consensual stimulation, and that response does not mean they agreed to it.
Why this label
Several studies agree, with stated limits such as student samples or lab settings. A review of clinical and forensic literature concludes that unwanted arousal and orgasm occur in non-consensual situations and that such responses are not evidence of consent. This is the basis of the app's rule that arousal is not consent.
What it does not show
- Narrative review resting largely on clinical reports and case material, not on controlled experiments.
- Cannot give prevalence figures.
- The ethical rule that consent must be communicated holds regardless of this evidence.
- Abstract read only.
Who it applies to
A pattern across groups of people, not a statement about any one person.
Source
- Levin, R. J., van Berlo, W. (2004). Sexual arousal and orgasm in subjects who experience forced or non-consensual sexual stimulation – a review, Journal of Clinical Forensic Medicine 11(2), 82-88.
Evidence: Supported with caveatsA partner's physical response cannot be used to infer that they want something or agree to it; the evidence gives no basis for reading wanting or agreement from arousal, so the only reliable route is to ask and to listen to the answer.
Why this label
Several studies agree, with stated limits such as student samples or lab settings. The two findings above fit together: body-based and felt arousal diverge on average, and arousal can occur against a person's wishes. The step from these findings to the instruction to ask is a practical and ethical rule, which this evidence supports but does not itself establish.
What it does not show
- A synthesis of a meta-analysis and a narrative review.
- Ethical rule rather than a tested intervention.
- Says nothing about how best to word a check-in; see the communication claims in this file.
Who it applies to
A pattern across groups of people, not a statement about any one person.
Sources
- Chivers, M. L., Seto, M. C., Lalumière, M. L., Laan, E., Grimbos, T. (2010). Agreement of Self-Reported and Genital Measures of Sexual Arousal in Men and Women: A Meta-Analysis, Archives of Sexual Behavior 39(1), 5-56.
- Levin, R. J., van Berlo, W. (2004). Sexual arousal and orgasm in subjects who experience forced or non-consensual sexual stimulation – a review, Journal of Clinical Forensic Medicine 11(2), 82-88.
- Suschinsky, K. D., Lalumière, M. L., Chivers, M. L. (2008). Sex Differences in Patterns of Genital Sexual Arousal: Measurement Artifacts or True Phenomena?, Archives of Sexual Behavior 38(4), 559-573.